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Emotional Intelligence and Technology Smarts–Compatible?

“Tell me Edree.  Does a senior manager in high tech really need to know how someone feels?”

What a great question and an obvious challenge.  His tone was friendly, but with a definite “prove it” sort of feel to it.  All eyes were on me.  Especially because I am an “immigrant” to the technology world, I had to meet this challenge.

 I smiled in secret gratitude for the perfect answer that had come to me just two days ago on the web.

 “That’s a good question, _____.” The truth is I really don’t know.But what I do know is that MIT and other organizations are developing computers that can read and respond supportively to the emotions of the user, particularly the challenging emotions like frustration.  I can say that it is clearly important for computers to know how people feel.  Whether, it is important for managers in tech companies—-you’ll have to decide.”

 Yes, the answer was a bit flippant, but it went over well.  They laughed and seemed to pay closer attention.

But now I have the time to offer a more complete response.  I will share it with you as well as with them. 

Here are three reasons why it is not only necessary but crucial for senior managers as well as other leaders and employees in technology to develop greater Emotional Intelligence (which includes, but is much more that knowing how someone feels):  1.  Neuro-scientists have determined that emotions heavily influence all our decisions and actions.  2. Emotions are a clue to what’s going on with the other person.  3. Challenging emotions, when ignored, can cause great chaos in the workplace.

What would you have said to the manager?


Recycle Destructive Old Gossip Behavior

Human beings are essentially storytellers. And one of our favorite story subjects to tell and hear about is other people. This is called gossip. Gossip is used as informal orientation—to teach people “what is and is not acceptable around here.”

It also serves to test our own behavior against the behavior of others and the people whose opinions matter to us. However, as you know, gossip can quickly get out of hand and become very destructive in the workplace.

Trying to get people to stop gossiping is not likely to be effective any. Besides, social and neuroscience evidence confirms that gossip is inherently a part of being human. It is a vital part of who we are.  However, you can build upon this timeless human past-time and capitalize on the skills that we have built up.  In other words, recycle the skill and the human habit.

One way to recycle destructive gossip is to use the “grapevine” as a communication channel and change the content to constructive or “good” gossip.

Think about someone at work that you could appreciate a bit more than you do now. Imagine how spreading good gossip about the person could improve your work relationship with them. Start to notice what you genuinely appreciate about them.

Share what you appreciate about the person with someone who is likely to pass it on. Choose something that if the person being gossiped about were to hear it, it would make their day.  

Have you initiated or experienced anyone spreading positive gossip?  Please let me and other readers hear about it.