Tag Archive for 'Cooperation'

Shift the Work As War Mindset!

When the war mindset is the primary operating at work, it contributes to ongoing destructive conflict and makes true cooperation difficult or virtually impossible.

Practice waking-up to war as the unconscious metaphor you participate in at work. Do different work groups ever speak of or act like they are enemies?

How much do you and/or colleagues unconsciously talk about work matters as if we are at war? For example, do your marketing people sharpen their marketing “weapons” to use on “target markets?” Brainstorm the use of war language and talk about how it plays out daily.

Choose another metaphor to describe your workplace. One of the popular metaphors my clients choose is gardening. What would your workplace be like if you approached work as a gardener or a tree instead of a warrior or victim of war? Or an orchestra with conductor, and each musician and section working literally in concert.

Practice consciously selecting a metaphor that serves you better to frame the way you work.

  • How would you think about the work, yourself all other stake-holders (clients, vendors, leaders, investors, etc) based on the new metaphor?
  • How would everyday language change?
  • What alternatives to “battles and trenches” would pepper daily conversation?
  • How would the energy at work shift?
  • What are the likely outcomes of your new metaphor?

Release Those Negative Emotions

The complementary actions of apology and forgiveness are profound. They accelerate the journey from conflict to cooperation by transforming the energy of negative emotions. Know you may need help with this. Start to gently use these powerful tools by applying them to conflict at your workplace.

Exercise #1

Listen respectfully next time a colleague or client tells a story of a past or existing workplace pain. If you truly feel sorry that they have had this painful experience, tell them. If appropriate, apologize on behalf of the organization, the profession. Or just as a fellow human being.

Exercise #2

Find a way to forgive (let go of the feelings that eat you up) anyone from your past or present work situation. This does not mean that you should excuse what they did or place condone the actions. Get a coach, advisor, therapist or trusted friend to help you do this.